Debate: Spank your kids?

[Football54]

This had always kind of been a big one. Do you spank your kids when they do wrong? Is this wrong, right, unethical, abusive, politically incorrect, approved, good in child raising? Any opinions would be great

[cittycatie]

I am not sure if I beleive in spanking, both my parents believe in it and use it.... good thing I am at the age where that is like totally not done ... but when I was younger yeah, that was the punishment

[Yuki]

Well, it's a little senseless to not disipline your children, without disipline, children grow up to be brats.
Spanking is one of the more commonly used disiplinary actions for children, I think that if it was considered 'abusive', parents would have long ago been in trouble. I don't think that it is abusive at all, there is not much else to do with children that would really be considered a disipline, is there? I mean, with the older age group, parents can restrict them from friends, or material posessions. But with younger children, one can not really use those types of punishments.

However, I think that spanking with a belt, whip, or anything besides the hand or shoe, is a little abusive. The point of a spanking is to warn the child that what they are/were doing/saying is wrong, and that there are consequences. Spanking with a belt or anything of the sort just takes it over board, if one is spanking with a belt, they have changed the point. The point goes from warning the child not to act in such a way again, to actually hurting the child, telling them not to do so again.

Other than that, I see nothing wrong with spankings.

[Jenni]

What Yuki said ;D

[Football54]

Excellently put, that was going to be the point that I tried to get across but you seem to have beaten me to it. I always get into this argument with people. Spanking your kids is NOT WRONG, its good and whoever doesn't do it, in my opinion, doesn't care enough about their kids and their future welfare. A belt may be a little extreme but sometimes thats the way its gotta be. I'm not saying "spank you kids with a belt!" but sometimes thats the way it needs to be done, all children are different and have different needs.
Again, very well put Yuki.

[De Rigueur]

I disagree entirely!

I see what Yuki and Football54 are saying, but...I just disagree. Why must the parents use a physical punishment? Can't they just tell them it was wrong?

I think that spanking is abusive, and there's nothing you guys can say to change my mind

[tanmanpursley73]

De Rigueur ok when a 5 year old starts beating up all the little kids that r 4 what ur just gonna tell him to stop and expect that to happen?

im sorry but i have 3 younger siblings and when you just tell them to stop or quit or nething what happens is they stop for 2 min. then it happens all over again if u want to know what make them stop its A.spankings B. spankings and no dessert or C. spankings and u dont wanna know

ya kids just dont get nething but pain if u send thier friends home then they just go and hange out with thier imagiary ones if u get rid of thier toys they find a stick hand have fun with that if u take away food they will sneak and get it neway. so i am a fond believer in the good old spanking

[Football54]

Exactly again. Some kids are just too hard headed to get throught to by "talking to them." It just doesn't work. I honestly have a really honery nephew who needs spankings more often than usual because he's so rebellious. I really really respect his dad though, he's one of the best people I know and I don't know where that boy would be if they didn't spank him.

[tanyahead]

I think spanking would promote good behaivior 'cause when I was little, my mom would spank us with the boom 'cause I was bad, and then I would be afraid to do anything bad so I didn't. AND Now I'm a good kid!
Although, some kids would get afraid of their parents, and that's not good.

I say spank, but not that hard!

[De Rigueur]

well i didn't mean to just merely tell teh child to stop, maybe something else, like a flick on the head (my dad does that to me to punnish us)

But...spanking just seems like abuse, I mean...you are actually HURTING the child! I'm sorry, i just can't bring myself to think otherwise...but your guys' input is welcome. ;D

[tanyahead]

Spank your kids to get their attention and get good behaivour, not because you're mad.

[tanmanpursley73]

De Rigueur its not like ur beating ur kids its just a light swat

did ur parents not give u these when u were a kid? cuz they dont hurt just a light spank and they know that they r in trouble and the better stop or the ultimate embaressment a bair bummer

i havent had one of thoughs in 8 years thankfully

[Jenni]

hm... i think spanking ur kids is ok... but there is other ways.. my mom said when she was little n when her n her brothers did something bad my Obachan would make them sit on there knees in the gekan(entrance to a house) for like n hour n there not aloud to move even if there feet started to sleep (hehe i feel sorri for my mom n uncles) i think that's worse then getting spanked cuz ur brd n ur feet is sleeping hehe i culd bearly sit like that for 5 min.

[Football54]

it actually comes down to getting through to your kids, whatever gets through to them best, is the action you should take. If making them sit on their knees or whatever it was you said works, then make them do that, i mean, so long as they get the point and grow up to know whats goin on and do well in life, as good people, whatever works.

[tanyahead]

Haha, jenni, they did that to your mom? my grandma made my mom's brothers cut my mom's hair and they sucked at it. so her hair was all wacked, but she dyed it many colors and it became......... a work.................................... of art!